How do you connect with you partner in the middle of raising young kids? Most couples struggle with building and maintaining a satisfying relationship during these crucial years when the kids are young and need a million things from us. But if you let your relationship die or the intimacy fade, you’ll be in real trouble. We find that simplicity is the best solution to disconnection, find ways to communicate your needs in a clear and direct way to your partner. Plug into creating intentional connection, which looks totally different when you have a year old baby or 3 kids under 10 than it did before kids. Instead of fighting the situation or pretending it’s different, acknowledge your new context and work with it instead of against it.
Read MoreWe’ve explored some reasons why sex is so difficult and the barriers that make engaging harder, and now we’re talking about how to make improvements in your sex life. It can help to understand the factors that make sex physiologically or psychologically more difficult (brakes) and things that really get your engine revving (accelerators). The key is for both partners to understand their own and each other’s turn ons and offs to change the context and set yourselves up for success to create an amazingly satisfying sex life.
Read MoreSex…it’s a topic. This is something that couples will inevitably bring up in our time in couples therapy, some are upfront and ready to dive into it, and for other’s it takes some time to get comfortable discussing this part of the relationship. However, it’s essential that you are paying attention to your sexual intimacy, not so much in how often or how spicy it is, but more so understanding each person’s needs and desires. Satisfaction is key, but that looks different for everyone. This is an introduction to some of the factors that impact intimacy, and stay tuned for future posts getting more specific about how to build sexual intimacy.
Read MoreValentine's Day may be focused on sex, but if you're going through infertility sex is the last thing you want to do on your holiday. In my post, I offer some practical ideas for how to take the pressure off of making V-Day about sex at the end of the evening, and more about the true intention, which is reconnecting with your partner and increasing your intimacy.
Read MoreYou may have noticed that with everything you have to do, daily chores, taking care of your baby, going to work, etc., it's difficult to stay connected to your partner. If you think about it, there are opportunities all around us to get closer to your partner. Here I provide 5 simple easy to implement ways to increase intimacy after baby.
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